Get out of victim consciousness
I recently attended a Family Constellations Intensive at Ghost Ranch in Abiquiu, New Mexico. What a gorgeous place! It’s no wonder that Georgia O’Keefe lived and painted there for years.
The conference I attended is called an “intensive” for good reason. It took me a full week to recover! It’s tiring to spend 5 straight days exploring your own and other people’s inner child hurts, mother & father wounding and ancestral trauma!
But it’s so worth it. Because ultimately, this work helps us to stop identifying with victim ~ victimizer consciousness.
Being in victim consciousness is a state of disempowerment. You know you’re in it when the things that are painful in your life are someone else’s fault. That politician. That doctor. That parent. That person you married…
(Confession: when I get triggered by my husband Russ, I go right into victim mode. But I’m working on letting it go and choosing to embody my power instead!)
It’s not our fault that we feel victimized. We’re trained in our society to identify with a fear-based mindset, including blaming those that we believe are our perpetrators.
Plus, as women, we experience the patriarchy and the degradation of the Sacred Feminine, and it’s easy to feel victimized.
This stuff is real. It’s totally valid to feel wronged by someone, by society or by larger forces.
Getting out of the Victim - Victimizer program
But what’s your next step from there? Are you going to keep telling yourself the same story? Or will you let go of the resentment and claim your inner power?
The truth is - on a Soul level - we choose our parents and the society we’re born into. We choose to experience challenges to grow. Life would be super boring if everything were easy.
Life is always happening FOR you, not TO you. Dropping into your heart and connecting with this truth helps you stop identifying with victim consciousness and instead connect with what is helpful for you from your difficult experiences.
Family Constellations can also heal this dynamic. In fact, that’s a major intent of this work.
If you find someone locally who facilitates live Constellations in a group setting, it can be a life changing experience. When you receive a Constellation, other people represent members of your family system while you observe. This helps you get into the neutral place of the witness, acknowledge what is, and let go of stories & entanglements that keep you small. If you prefer to work in privacy, book a 1:1 Online Family Constellation session.
What we learn in the process is that there’s no one to blame, no one to protect, no one to judge. At the soul level we’re all Love.